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I enjoy going out dressed, perhaps to a restaurant ,or the movies or such other entertainment. I have a pretty well stacked closet which I have acquired over the years and am very happy with. However there are many things I do while dressed as Paul that I do quite happily. As I ly stated in one of my blogs my wife and I have an agreement that she gets to share Paul and Pauline. The arrangement allows three days of Paul and three days of Pauline.
Although Gail has to bully me to buy clothes for Paul. All her family know I dress, but not all of mine know about me.
Officially only my eldest and his partner know that I dress. I suspect that more actually know. I live in a gated community that has no gates, just an un-manned gate house. I go out dressed in the community a lot. So far no one has openly said anything negative. Whatever they say in the privacy of there own home I will never know. Neither do I care. One afternoon, Just a i am a crossdresser time after we had moved in, I dressed en-femme to go out.
I was on my own. I must add here that I live on a narrow dead end street. It is hard for two cars to pass. As I pulled out of my driveway, car nose first, my neighbor opposite who was looking in the trunk of her car, looked up. She had met Paul and Gail but not Pauline. She saw a person driving the car that looked like Paul but was dressed as a female.
When the penny dropped the expression on her face was priceless. Later we all spoke about it and we all thought it was very funny. There is a trans organization in Toronto where I made some very good personal friends. Through these friendships we have formed a small informal group of gals who tend to hang out together.
We often go out dressed as a group or just one or two together. To follow up on something I said ly, we try to avoid an obvious crowd. This is helped as a rule by some female partners who come with us who inadvertently act as a foil.
So in summary, we dress when we can but many times life gets in the way. The actual act of dressing takes up time. One of my friends has gone a long way in the area of hair removal. So when she gets up in the morning it is relatively easy for her — she just needs to wash herself do a little makeup put on a dress and bingo she is in a femme mode.
For the rest of us we have to shave and possibly hide the five o-clock shadow, a shower might be in order as well. On a typical day, Gail or I have functions to complete. Medical appointments, car to service, visit family, items which will include other people who are not aware I dress. Finding a day with literally nothing to do is somewhat rare. So what is my point?
Is it true to assume that if I was fully committed to the female genre I would dress full time? Of course this would mean accepting all the problems that go with it. All of my family would get to know, which may or not be a problem. Everyone else, who is in our immediate circle, would know. My doctor knows but has only seen photos. Then of course include the general public with whom one comes in contact on a daily basis. There would be a real mix of reactions both positive and negative. Most of which would be totally unpredictable. This would take a lot of courage. Particularly if you have a partner who would then become subject to all the fall-out that would go with this.
If your partner is okay with it, terrific! This is where my guilt comes in. Is this approach common one and do any of you feel the same way? Moved to make a comment? here and use the comment area below. Tags: crossdressingfeaturedIdentitypartners. Pauline, your life i am a crossdresser almost a parallel to mine. I live in Oklahoma, and both my wife and I are retired. All of our four married children know of Wendi, but all except our oldest daughter and her husband are not interested in seeing me enfemme.
Like i am a crossdresser, I feel if I cannot dress for several days I become irritable, and I hate to say grouchy. I love to go shopping with my wife, and she often points to some article of clothing she knows I would like, and buys it for me, also like you I hate to buy clothes for my male self. You have hit the nail right on the head! And then they are the other days when I have the time to dress that I have to motivate myself to dress and pretty Diana clothes.
Some days I feel like an artist palette. Then the time of year dictates whether there was a need for pantyhose or not. Saturdays are usually dress down days in jeans like jeggings even then the outfit is thoroughly thought-out. Be at the bank or simply going grocery shopping.
I do have a distant cousin in another state who does not have a computer am I have never met except by the phone who is TS and has gone through GRS about 7 years ago when she was in her late 50s. Because of the area of the country where she lives and it being a very small town she has met with quite a bit of negativity.
Then again I always joke that there is the financial CD, there is the music CD, and then there is me. LOL But as I said even though I am out to many of my customers who I repair band instruments for there are days that wearing pretty delicate clothes would not be practical as they would get damaged by valve oil or the torch when I saw instruments together. So strong that it actually slows me down from dressing other than as Diana.
To the point that I have no choice but to dress as Diana because is the proper clothing to wear in my mind.
This can go on for a week or not at all for several days. I keep a logbook on what I wear and where I go and which days I dress as Diana. Which averages out to about a third of the time. Meaning anywheres from next to nothing to almost three-quarters of the time. I have learned it is much easier to go with the flow and the draw to dress as Diana than to fight it because the draw will only come back with a vengeance even stronger if suppressed. It is because of Diana that I got my ears pierced twice a nasal piercing.
That side of me nudges a little bit more each year. The male side reminds the female side that it could mean the end for the male side if pushed too far by the female side. But that does not stop the female side from nudging for more time out in the world. Since our museum is owned by the town I have come out to the township manager and sat and informal meetings with him as Diana. But many years ago I asked myself if I had a magic wand would I use it and the answer is no because I was fear and not being able to change back into my male self if the magic wand broke.
So I can really relate to your article as you can see by the length of what I said. So in my personal opinion there are those of us that will always remain on the fence and yet be transgender. So you have really described it perfectly! I have given this a lot of thought. Among i am a crossdresser TG friends I can think of only 1 who would fit MY definition of crossdresser-being that female clothing is a fetish and there is no desire to act as or present as a woman.
Like my friends I wish I was a woman and achieve a great degree of contentment when presenting as female. Like the author-there are times when I just choose to be at home etc so there is really no i am a crossdresser deal presenting as a woman as most women would probably be attired as me in those circumstances i.
I also agree that labels are a lot of baloney but do feel that many feel comfortable with the crossdresser label as they feel uncomfortable with the self admission that they really want to be a woman.
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